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Alex and Jen Lesko

Alex lived in a repeating cycle of marriage and divorce. Jen was raised in an atheist home and wanted nothing to do with God, only chasing sex and worldly pleasures. When a family member suggested re|engage, the Leskos not only reconstructed their marriage but found new life in Christ.

Jun 12, 2019

In This Series (303)
Nate and Michelle Ball
Jun 15, 2022Dallas
Robbie and Teri Vedrenne
May 25, 2022Dallas
Paul and Kelly Rutherford
May 18, 2022Dallas
David and Tara Jensen
May 11, 2022Dallas
John and Jeanie Cox
May 4, 2022Dallas
Steve and Amie Bradley
Apr 27, 2022Dallas
Chris and Michelle Dishman
Apr 20, 2022Dallas
Kevin and Kelly Mainz
Apr 13, 2022Dallas
Jim and Judy Wimberley
Jim & Judy WimberleyApr 6, 2022Dallas
Dean and Tawney Macfarlan
Mar 30, 2022Dallas
Rob and Haley Thomas
Rob and Haley ThomasMar 23, 2022Dallas
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Mar 16, 2022Dallas
David and Lauren Kinney
Mar 9, 2022Dallas
Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Mar 2, 2022Dallas
Martha and Ivan Illarramendi
Feb 16, 2022Dallas
Ryan and Callie Nixon
Ryan & Callie NixonFeb 9, 2022Dallas
Alex and Jen Lesko
Jan 19, 2022Dallas
Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
Jan 12, 2022Dallas
Selena and Michael Thompson
Jan 5, 2022Dallas
Russ and Karen Fleig
Dec 15, 2021Dallas
Phil and Beth Brinkmeyer
Dec 8, 2021Dallas
Leonard and Mandy Bagdanov
Dec 1, 2021Dallas
Glenn and Desiree Newblom
Nov 17, 2021Dallas
Michael and Melinda Parisi
Nov 10, 2021Dallas
Bobby and Shari Johns
Nov 3, 2021Dallas
Brett and Jan Bruster
Oct 20, 2021Dallas
Wes and Angie Talley
Oct 13, 2021Dallas
Mac and Sophie Macfarlan
Oct 6, 2021Dallas
John and Debbie Wingfield
Sep 29, 2021
Brett and Chrisey Billman
Sep 15, 2021Dallas
Nate and Michelle Ball
Sep 8, 2021
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine
Aug 25, 2021Dallas
Divorce Panel
Jun 23, 2021
Trey and Shera O'Neal
Jun 16, 2021Dallas
LaDale and Cynthia Buggs
Jun 9, 2021Dallas
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Jun 2, 2021Dallas
David and Tara Jensen
May 26, 2021Dallas
Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
May 19, 2021Dallas
Jim and Judy Wimberley
Jim & Judy WimberleyApr 28, 2021
Ivan and Martha Illarramendi
Apr 28, 2021Dallas
Billy and Amanda Porche
Apr 21, 2021Dallas
Steve and Amie Bradley
Apr 14, 2021Dallas
Griffin and Kami Stroope
Apr 7, 2021Dallas
David and Lauren Kinney
Mar 31, 2021Dallas
Rick and Michelle Howard
Mar 24, 2021Dallas
Glenn and Desiree Newblom
Mar 17, 2021Dallas
Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Mar 3, 2021Dallas
David and Tara Jensen
Feb 24, 2021Dallas
Brett and Jan Bruster
Jan 20, 2021Dallas
Bobby and Shari Johns
Jan 13, 2021Dallas
Ryan and Callie Nixon
Aug 28, 2020
Steve and Amie Bradley
Jun 2, 2020
Testimony- Brian and Morgan Buchek
Mar 4, 2020Dallas
Testimony - David & Tara Jensen
Mar 2, 2020Plano
Blended Family Panel
Feb 26, 2020Dallas
Testimony - Greg & Jennifer Sutherland
Feb 24, 2020Plano
Testimony - Jacob & April Neely
Feb 17, 2020Plano
Troy and Julia Bussmeir
Feb 7, 2020
Russ and Katie Moyer
Feb 7, 2020
Nick and Rachel Klein
Feb 7, 2020
Mike and Shelly Ahlemeier
Feb 7, 2020
Matt and Andrea Walker
Feb 7, 2020
Luis and Kaylee Caceres
Feb 7, 2020
Graham and Stacey Robbins
Feb 7, 2020
Andy and Jenny Marsh
Feb 7, 2020
Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
Feb 5, 2020Dallas
Griffin and Kami Stroope Testimony
Jan 22, 2020
Testimony
Jan 8, 2020
Divorce Panel
Brett Bruster, Bobby Johns, Alissa MauldinNov 20, 2019
Testimony
LaDale & Cynthia BuggsNov 13, 2019
Testimony
Nov 6, 2019
Testimony- Glenn and Desiree Newblom
Oct 23, 2019
Michael and Selena Thompson
Oct 21, 2019
Testimony- Greg and Emily Goodin
Oct 16, 2019
Re|Engage Large Group Testimony
Sep 18, 2019
Re|Engage Large Group Testimony
Sep 11, 2019
Brandon and Brittani Travelstead
Sep 7, 2019
Re|Engage Large Group Testimony
Shane & Alissa MauldinAug 28, 2019
Re|Engage Large Group Testimony
Ryan & Callie Nixon, John & Pam McGeeAug 21, 2019
Re|Engage Large Group Testimony
Dru & Amanda GuillotAug 14, 2019Plano
Martin and Lenore Gao
Jul 24, 2019Dallas
Testimony - Shera and Trey O’Neal
Jul 10, 2019Dallas
John and Debbie Wingfield
Jun 12, 2019
Alex and Jen Lesko
Jun 12, 2019
Tim and Kalyn Gereg
Jun 5, 2019
Jimmy and Michelle Comeaux
May 29, 2019
Raeul and Susan Cox
May 15, 2019
Jason and Mandy Castro
May 15, 2019
David and Robin Howard
May 15, 2019
Ivan and Martha Illarramendi
May 1, 2019
Robert and Linda Green
Robert and Linda GreenApr 10, 2019
LaDale and Cynthia Buggs
Apr 10, 2019
Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Apr 3, 2019
Billy and Amanda Porche
Mar 27, 2019
Brett and Jan Bruster
Brett & Jan BrusterMar 13, 2019
Greg and Emily Goodin
Mar 6, 2019
Charles and Karen Bundren
Charles & Karen BundrenFeb 6, 2019
Testimony
Nate & Michelle BallJan 30, 2019
Testimony - Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
Jared & Leigh Anne SullivanJan 23, 2019
Bobby and Shari Johns
Bobby & Shari JohnsJan 9, 2019
Testimony - LaDale and Cynthia Buggs
LaDale & Cynthia BuggsDec 5, 2018
Re|Engage Spanish Night Testimony - Manuel & Elvia Lemus
Nov 14, 2018
Re|Engage Spanish Night Testimony - Ivan & Martha Illarramendi
Ivan & Martha IllarramendiNov 14, 2018
Ivan and Martha Illarramendi
Ivan & Martha IllarramendiNov 14, 2018
Testimony - Alex and Jen Lesko
Nov 7, 2018
Testimony - Raeul and Susan Cox
Raeul & Susan CoxOct 31, 2018
Simon and Katrina Saugier
Katrina Saugier, Simon SaugierOct 10, 2018
David and Denise Renken
David & Denise RenkenSep 10, 2018Plano
Testimony - Robert & Linda Green
Robert and Linda GreenSep 5, 2018
Testimony - Martin and Lenore Gao
Aug 29, 2018
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Aug 22, 2018
Testimony - Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Aug 15, 2018
Testimony - Charles and Karen Bundren
Charles Bundren, Karen Bundren, Charles & Karen BundrenAug 1, 2018
Testimony - Bobby & Shari Johns
Bobby & Shari JohnsJul 18, 2018
Testimony - Ivan & Martha
Ivan & Martha IllarramendiJun 27, 2018
Testimony - Tim & Kalyn Gereg
Jun 20, 2018
Greg & Tonya Gilmer
Greg & Tonya GilmerMay 30, 2018
Testimony - Ryan & Callie Nixon
Ryan & Callie NixonMay 23, 2018
Paul and Kelly Rutherford
Paul & Kelly RutherfordMay 9, 2018
Nate and Michelle Ball
Nate & Michelle BallMay 2, 2018
Kevin and Kelli Mainz
Kevin & Kelly MainzApr 18, 2018
Testimony - Greg and Emily Goodin
Greg Goodin, Emily GoodinMar 28, 2018
Testimony - John and Debbie Wingfield
John Wingfield, Debbie WingfieldMar 14, 2018
Testimony - Shane & Alissa Mauldin
Shane & Alissa MauldinFeb 28, 2018
Brett and Chrisey Billman
Brett & Chrisey BillmanFeb 21, 2018
Todd and Alex Wagner
Todd & Alex WagnerFeb 7, 2018
Teaching - Community
Scott CoyJan 24, 2018
Teaching- Completion
John & Pam McGeeDec 6, 2017
Testimony - Markus & Mary Kay Jabek
Markus & Mary Kay JabekNov 29, 2017
Testimony - Dave & Denise Renken
Dave & Denise RenkenNov 15, 2017
Robert and Liz White
Robert & Liz WhiteNov 8, 2017
Testimony- John and Pam McGee
John & Pam McGeeNov 1, 2017
Testimony- Charles and Karen Bundren
Charles & Karen BundrenOct 25, 2017
Testimony - John & Debbie Wingfield
John & Debbie WingfieldOct 18, 2017
Testimony - Greg & Tonya Gilmer
Greg & Tonya GilmerOct 11, 2017
Testimony - Ryan & Callie Nixon
Ryan & Callie NixonSep 20, 2017
Kyle and Lucina Thompson
Kyle & Lucinda ThompsonSep 13, 2017
Testimony - Jared & Leigh Anne Sullivan
Jared & Leigh Anne SullivanAug 30, 2017
Testimony - Bobby & Shari Johns
Bobby & Shari JohnsAug 23, 2017
John Paul and Rena
Aug 16, 2017
Testimony - Paul & Kelly Rutherford
Paul and Kelly RutherfordJul 26, 2017
Trey and Shera O'Neal
Trey O'Neal , Shera O'NealJul 19, 2017
Testimony - Kevin & Kelli Mainz
Kelli Mainz, Kevin MainzJul 12, 2017
Erick and Gina Frank
Jun 28, 2017
Martin & Lenore Gao Testimony
May 31, 2017
Tyler and Jenny O'Neal
May 24, 2017
Mark and Kathy Thomas
May 17, 2017
Peter and Eleanor Boynton
May 10, 2017
Testimony - Shane & Alissa Mauldin
May 3, 2017
Eric and Catherine Couch
Eric Couch, Catherine CouchApr 19, 2017
Bill and Ann Daly
Mar 29, 2017
Testimony - LaDale & Cynthia Buggs
Mar 22, 2017
Testimony - Nate & Michelle Ball
Nate Ball, Michelle Ball Mar 15, 2017
Kyle and Caty Bilton
Caty Bilton, Kyle BiltonMar 8, 2017
Michael and Stefanie Santiago
Mar 6, 2017
Steve and Natalie Hamm
Re|EngageFeb 20, 2017
Testimony - Brett & Chrisey Billman
Brett Billman, Chrisey BillmanFeb 15, 2017
Chris and Charece Robbins
Feb 8, 2017
Testimony - Charles & Karen Bundren
Feb 1, 2017
Klein and Holly Swannie
Jan 18, 2017
Dean and Tawney Macfarlan
Jan 11, 2017
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine
Dec 21, 2016
Testimony - Kevin and Kelli Mainz
Nov 30, 2016
Testimony - Robert & Liz White
Liz White, Robert White Nov 9, 2016
Testimony - John & Debbie Wingfield
Oct 26, 2016
Testimony - Mark & Kathy Thomas
Oct 12, 2016
Testimony - Bobby and Shari Johns
Oct 5, 2016
Testimony - Simon & Katrina Saugier
Simon Saugier, Katrina SaugierSep 28, 2016
Testimony - Shane & Alissa Mauldin
Shane Mauldin, Alissa MauldinSep 21, 2016
Teaching - The Importance of Fun in Marriage
John & Pam McGeeSep 14, 2016
Testimony
Paul and Kelly RutherfordAug 24, 2016
Teaching - Sexual Intimacy
Robert and Linda GreenAug 17, 2016
Rick and Michele Howard
Re|EngageAug 10, 2016
Scott and Laura DeBow
Re|EngageJul 27, 2016
Zech and Kim Lumpkin
Re|EngageJul 20, 2016
Tyler and Jenny O'Neal Testimony
Re|EngageJul 13, 2016
Scott and Kristen Kedersha
Re|EngageJun 22, 2016
Bill and Ann Daly
Re|EngageJun 15, 2016
Bobby and Shari Johns
Re|EngageJun 8, 2016
Newly and Karen Spikes
Jun 2, 2016
Richard and Roxanna McCauley
Re|EngageMay 25, 2016
Jon and Kathy Flaming
Re|EngageMay 11, 2016
Brett and Jan Bruster
Re|EngageApr 27, 2016
Reid and Jenny Griffin
Re|EngageApr 20, 2016
Kyle and Lucina Thompson
Re|EngageApr 13, 2016
Chris and Charece Robbins
Re|EngageMar 23, 2016
Brett and Chrisey Billman
Re|EngageMar 9, 2016
Dee and Roddy Elliott
Re|EngageMar 2, 2016
Derek and Stacy Braziel
Re|EngageFeb 17, 2016
Greg and Tonya Gilmer
Re|EngageFeb 3, 2016
Adam and Brooke Fish
Re|EngageJan 27, 2016
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Re|EngageJan 13, 2016
Everett and Emily Alexander
Re|EngageJan 6, 2016
Mark and Kathy Thomas
Re|EngageDec 16, 2015
Divorce Panel
Re|EngageDec 9, 2015
Matt and Amy Levy
Re|EngageNov 18, 2015
Robert and Liz White
Re|EngageNov 4, 2015
Bryce and Elizabeth Erickson
Re|EngageOct 21, 2015
Greg and Tonya Gilmer
Re|EngageOct 7, 2015
Chris and Charece Robbins
Re|EngageSep 30, 2015
Dru and Amanda Guillot
Re|EngageSep 23, 2015
Dee and Roddy Elliott
Re|EngageSep 16, 2015
Warren and Angie Wright
Re|EngageSep 9, 2015
Derek and Stacy Braziel
Re|EngageSep 2, 2015
Chris and Dana Adamson
Re|EngageJul 10, 2015
Jeremy and Mindi Patty
Re|EngageJul 8, 2015
Bobby and Shari Johns
Re|EngageJun 17, 2015
Jim and Judy Wimberley
Re|EngageJun 3, 2015
Kevin and Kelli Mainz
Re|EngageMay 20, 2015
Brett and Chrisey Billman
Re|EngageMay 11, 2015
Jason and Mandy Castro
Re|EngageMay 6, 2015
Kyle and Lucina Thompson
Re|EngageApr 29, 2015
Reid and Jenny Griffin
Re|EngageApr 22, 2015
Greg and Tonya Gilmer
Re|EngageApr 1, 2015
Raeul and Susan Cox
Re|EngageMar 18, 2015
Dee and Roddy Elliott
Re|EngageFeb 25, 2015
John and Meredith Hall
Re|EngageFeb 18, 2015
Ryan and Callie Nixon
Re|EngageFeb 11, 2015
Adam and Brooke Fish
Re|EngageJan 28, 2015
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Re|EngageJan 14, 2015
Bobby and Shari Johns
Re|EngageDec 3, 2014
Bobby and Shari Johns
Re|EngageDec 3, 2014
Greg and Tonya Gilmer
Greg Gilmer, Re|Engage, Tanya GilmerNov 19, 2014
Robert and Liz White
Re|EngageNov 12, 2014
A.C. and Debi Ndindjock
Re|EngageNov 5, 2014
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine
Re|EngageOct 22, 2014
Reid and Jenny Griffin
Re|EngageOct 15, 2014
Bryce and Elizabeth Erickson
Re|EngageOct 13, 2014
Bill and Kathryn Buntyn
Re|EngageOct 1, 2014
Nate and Teresa Graybill
Re|EngageSep 24, 2014
Robert and Lou Ann McMillen
Re|EngageSep 17, 2014
Dee and Roddy Elliott
Re|EngageSep 17, 2014
Kirk and Cathy McJunkin
Re|EngageAug 27, 2014
Adam and Jackie Tarnow - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageAug 13, 2014
Kyle and Lucina Thompson - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJul 30, 2014
Joey and Christian Rider - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJul 2, 2014
Jason and Mandy Castro - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 25, 2014
Jeff and Martha Sharrock - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 18, 2014
Scott and Kristen Kedersha - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 11, 2014
Zech and Kim Lumpkin - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 4, 2014
Chris and Charece Robbins - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 7, 2014
Robert and Linda Green
Re|EngageApr 30, 2014
Everett and Emily Alexander - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 23, 2014
Bobby and Shari Johns - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 16, 2014
Neal and Ann Holford - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 9, 2014
Les and Desi Brown - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 26, 2014
Simon and Katrina Saugier - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJan 22, 2014
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJan 15, 2014
Chris and Dana Adamson - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageJan 8, 2014
Rick and Michele Howard - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageDec 18, 2013
Divorce Panel - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageDec 11, 2013
Bryce and Elizabeth Erickson - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageNov 20, 2013
Dee and Roddy Elliott - re|engage Testimony
Re|EngageNov 13, 2013
Mike and Laura Labunski
Re|EngageNov 6, 2013
Robert and Liz White - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 30, 2013
Eddy and Rachel Badrina - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 23, 2013
Shane and Alissa Mauldin - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 16, 2013
David and Denise Renken - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 9, 2013
Reid and Jenny Griffin - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageSep 25, 2013
A.C. and Debi Ndindjock - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageSep 18, 2013
Joey and Christian Rider - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageSep 11, 2013
Scott and Kristen Kedersha
Re|EngageAug 7, 2013
Jeff and Martha Sharrock
Re|EngageJul 31, 2013
Neal and Ann Holford - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 29, 2013
Wes and Brandy Butler - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 3, 2013
Andy and Jennifer Bailey - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 27, 2013
Lance and Mandy Sisco - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJan 16, 2013
Leonard and Mandy Bagdanov - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageDec 19, 2012
Blake and Rebecca Holmes - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 10, 2012
Chris and Dana - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageAug 8, 2012
Catherine and Tom - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 25, 2012
Angie and Warren Wright - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 28, 2012
Teri and Robbie Vedrenne - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 21, 2012
Tawney and Dean Macfarlan - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 14, 2012
Brooke and Adam Fish - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageFeb 29, 2012
Judy and Jim Wimberly - Re|Engage Testiomony
Re|EngageFeb 22, 2012
Kim and Zech Lumpkin - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageFeb 8, 2012
Mary and Ted Randall - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJan 11, 2012
Susan and Raeul - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageDec 21, 2011
Katie and Brandon Lokey - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageDec 14, 2011
Mindi and Jeremy - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageNov 30, 2011
Lisbeth and Hil Bowman - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 19, 2011
Meredith and John Hall - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageSep 28, 2011
Tanna and Rick - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageSep 14, 2011
Cathy and Kirk McJunkin - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageAug 24, 2011
Crystal and Anthony Obey - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJul 27, 2011
Rachel and Eddy
Re|EngageJun 29, 2011
Lucina and Kyle Thompson - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 22, 2011
Adam and Aleks Stewart - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 15, 2011
Linda and John Berry - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 25, 2011
Lora and Jeff Strese - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 11, 2011
Julie and Todd Anders - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 27, 2011
Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageApr 20, 2011
Jackie and Adam Tarnow - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 23, 2011
Ann and Matt Piper - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageFeb 16, 2011
Cindy and Mike Homsher - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageNov 3, 2010
Julie and Scott Sedberry - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageOct 13, 2010
Rebecca and Chip Dickens - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageAug 25, 2010
Missy and David Leventhal - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageAug 18, 2010
Carrie and Troy Patterson - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageJun 30, 2010
Sheri and Brett Johnston - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 19, 2010
Tanna and Rick Wisner - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMay 12, 2010
Anna and Kavon Moradi - Re|Engage Testimony
Re|EngageMar 24, 2010

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Alex: Thanks everybody, my name is Alex Lesko and this is my beautiful, intelligent, lovely, amazing wife, Jen. We’re just blessed to be here to share God’s story in our life. If you look up at the slides, that’s our wedding day. And the next one is our three, beautiful teenage girls, my lovely wife, and me 30 pounds ago.

Jeremiah 32:27, “Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?”

We sat right where you are for the very first time in September 2016 (I was an agnostic and Jen an atheist). Jen was terrified and felt as though her heart had been ripped violently out of her chest and stomped on only a few weeks before. She was extremely uncomfortable in my presence as we sat awkwardly together. She had discovered pictures on my phone, which eventually led to the discovery of an affair I’d been having with a woman at work.

Jen: The deceit and new knowledge of Alex’s unfaithfulness was unbearable. My heart was totally at war with itself – part of me wanted to move as far away as possible and forget Alex ever existed, part of me wanted to end my life to make the pain stop, and some strange part of me wanted to stay in our marriage. I was so numb that I agreed to follow the advice of Alex’s brother to try re|engage.

But let’s go a lot farther back to see how we arrived here and what happened when we invited Christ into our lives.

Alex: My biological mother introduced me to Christ when I was very young. She and my father separated and later divorced when I was three. Four years later, she told my sister and I that her dad who lived in Japan had become ill, and she needed to go care for him. I would never see her again. God was not a part of our family from that point on.

I was first introduced to pornographic magazines at age 11 which was the first step toward a life marked by sexual immorality. Throughout high school, college, and into medical school I was desperately lonely. I was viewed by girls as “friend material” and became depressed, lamenting that I would never find anybody who loved me. My longest relationship only lasted a few months until I met my first wife, who was in a relationship at the time. We married and then subsequently divorced 11 short months later, when I left her for another woman.

And that basically, that little story encapsulated my method of operation with women. I would find a girl who was unhappy in her relationship, become her “friend”, flirt with her, console her and offer her something better. I learned to be the “good guy” by taking an interest in each woman and her pain. This led me to become an “expert” at grooming women. By doing this, I could avoid rejection. I pushed the envelope as far as I could, seduced women, and led them down the path into an emotional, then physical relationship. I did this with anybody I found attractive regardless of their marital status.

After I left my first marriage, I started seeing multiple women at the same time and was sleeping with as many as I could. I was completely out of control, but I: 1) didn’t seem to realize it, and 2) still had this insatiable craving to be loved, but loved perfectly. I bounced from one relationship to another, from one marriage to the next. With one divorce under my belt, I married my second wife, we had a daughter but I continued pursuing other women. This second marriage was soon in turmoil as several of my affairs were discovered. Toward the end of this second marriage, I met Jen.

Jen: I grew up in California with my mom, dad, and one younger brother. We were an atheist family. I was raised lumping God into the same category with the Tooth Fairy, Santa Clause, and the Easter Bunny.

Though my parents were married and still are to this day, I have very few memories of my mom from my childhood – my dad and our nanny were our primary caretakers. Booze and women were my dad’s fuel in life – I remember him talking inappropriately about the women on TV as well as my friends and their moms. Going anywhere with him - the grocery store, school, running errands was sure to evoke provocative comments with any attractive woman who crossed our paths. We really didn’t talk about anything other than sports, other people’s shortcomings, and women, so this became the lens through which I viewed life. I learned three things very quickly as a young girl:

  1. To get any attention from my dad, I needed to adopt his activities and excel in sports.

  2. I gained attention when I could fit in with my dad's friends. I learned very quickly how to communicate with men and more importantly, what they liked in life and in women.

  3. To get attention I had to look the part. I cared tremendously about my outward appearance.

Armed with this knowledge from a young age, I set out to “conquer” life, boys and eventually men. I bounced from relationship to relationship throughout high school and college, on a desperate quest to find men who would be physical with me. Sex had become my currency, and I used it liberally as a means to find “love”. No surprise these relationships always felt hollow and often ended as quickly as they started.

I was about to graduate from college and understood that the next step in life was to find a job, get married and have kids, so after dating a nice guy for six weeks, I accepted his marriage proposal. As a 22-year-old, I came into this first marriage with a truck full of uncommunicated hopes, dreams and desires. When my husband didn’t meet these expectations, that feeling of being in love dissipated quickly and I was convinced that I had married the wrong person. By the age of 27, I was a mom to two girls, desperately wanted a divorce, was having difficulty drawing boundaries with my own extended family, and so pushed my husband to move to Texas, hoping a cross country move and a fresh start would allow me to find happiness. Though I stayed in that marriage, I was constantly on the lookout for any reason to bolt, convinced that I deserved better.

In 2009, my youngest daughter started playing on a soccer team – Alex’s daughter was on the same team. We began a very flirtatious relationship, often texting throughout the day. There was no sexual component to our relationship at this point, but we were having conversations that we should not be having – we had become engaged in an emotional affair. I had found my safety net and so asked my husband to move out and filed for divorce immediately. In my total self-absorption, I gave no thought to how deeply this would hurt him or the fact that I had forced “divorce” to forever be part of my daughters’ stories.

The day my first husband moved out, I started dating Alex and immediately began a sexual relationship with him, believing that this was now “ok” because I was separated from my husband. Alex and my relationship was quickly built upon a physical foundation fueled by lust and I was utterly smitten. Within a few months, however, this fizzled. I had never felt “love” like that and so continued to pursue Alex like a puppy dog for the next two years. We married in 2012 and became a blended, dysfunctional family overnight. Something always felt so off. Alex could be so romantic and kind, but he was often cruel and detached. He would show up from time to time to interact with me and the kids, but otherwise did what he wanted. A darkness and deep seeded bitterness began to take over in my heart – this was not the second marriage I’d signed up for.

Alex: Paul says in Romans 7:19, “For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing.” Despite the revolving door of women, I knew in my heart that there was something different about Jen. Something that I saw in her that compelled me to desire to be different. But, without God in my life, I remained a hopeless slave to my sinful patterns and continued grooming women, seeking inappropriate sexual relationships, sexting, and porn and masturbation. I knew something was wrong, but I also knew that I couldn’t be authentic. I would lose everything if all the sins of my past and our present were revealed to my wife. I was trying to be “better,” but was also trying to manage and continue to hide my sin.

Jen: By the spring of 2016, I knew something was very wrong. Alex had started drinking often, would go into work at 5 AM and came home regularly past 7 PM, avoiding the girls and I when he arrived home. I finally discovered the affair he’d been having for months with a coworker through racy pictures on his phone and I was devastated.

Alex moved out. I vacillated daily between calling a divorce lawyer and wanting to fix our disaster of a marriage. I was so lost and numb that Alex’s brother recommended we get help through re|engage. Walking into a church as an atheist was the wildest thing I’d ever done – I watched as a small band played a song called, “O Come to the Altar” and heard the verse “Have you come to the end of yourself? Do you thirst for a drink from the well? Jesus is calling.” I had no idea what that meant but realized this perfectly described the hopelessness I was feeling. We then watched a couple come up on stage and unapologetically detail out what a mess their marriage was and how someone named Jesus had saved it. I had no buoy to cling on to at this point and so clung to re|engage, where I began to cultivate a personal relationship with Jesus, a God who would never be unfaithful and loved me just as I was. Romans 5:8, “…but God proves His own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

As Alex and I continued to attend re|engage, something was still very off and so I began digging. I discovered email accounts, phone records, folders on his desktop, credit card receipts and was overwhelmed with horror. There were so many other women throughout our years together.

Alex: Because we weren’t living together at this point, I assumed Jen only knew about the one affair. I couldn’t possibly tell her about everything – that would surely be the end. Going to re|engage, I kept hearing the same thing from people – tell the whole truth. So, every time I saw Jen, I would tell her about another woman. I can only imagine the pain she experienced. “Please tell me this is all,” she implored. It was awful, because that wasn’t all of it, and I knew it. This trickle of information plus what she was finding on my computers definitely eroded any remaining trust she had in me. It was during this difficult time in the fall of 2016 that I gave up porn and masturbation for good with the help of “Covenant Eyes”. Yet I prayed to a God I didn’t know, not really sure how to pursue a relationship with Him. Then God made his presence known to me and I couldn’t ignore it. In six short weeks the following happened:

First, I tore every major ligament in my remaining “good knee” playing the sport I loved – soccer. It was the last game I’ll ever play again and the first time I ever scored a hattrick (three goals) in a competitive match – very sweet of Him to give me that nice parting gift. Surgery then followed which gave me time off to spend with my brother and grow through our conversations.

Second, I discovered the dad of my daughter’s swim friend was grooming her over text and Instagram. While children were not part of my addiction, it made me realize that I was no different than him, apart from Christ. I had told many women they were beautiful over the years and asked them to send me pictures, just like this man did with my daughter at that time.

Next, we got into a closed group in re|engage and I suddenly lost my job. God took the decision to leave this job (where my last affair partner worked) off my plate. The severance I received gave me time off to continue to grow in my understanding of God’s character.

Finally, I made the most important decision I’ll ever make. I finally trusted God, through Christ, with my life and my heart, while also deciding to disclose all of my sexual past to Jen – and it was a lot. James 5:16 “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.”

After an agonizingly long disclosure with Jen that took almost two hours, I felt deflated and felt that there was also a very good chance our story would end in divorce.

Yet, just three days after disclosure, our re|engage group gathered around the fire pit at our leaders’ home – and to my amazement, Jen was there! We were able to share our pain, and even smile and laugh. I don’t know about you, but in what world does that ever happen?! Wow, this God is some amazing God – that I can share such hurtful things and He can keep us moving toward reconciliation.

Jen: During this season, God had taken hold of my heart and I began CRAVING the goodness and the truth in His word. I listened to worship music daily, read devotionals and scripture several times a day. I studied books like Ruth, Song of Solomon, and Proverbs 31 to understand what is expected of me as a woman, wife and mother. I joined a Christian support group for wives of men struggling with sexual addiction and learned what self-care and creating boundaries entailed. Through re|engage, God was uprooting all the warped beliefs I’d brought into both of my marriages. I was learning how to draw a circle around myself and work on everything inside of it, and well as beginning to understand the power of forgiveness and grace. I was starting to learn to love my husband as Christ does.

Alex and I reconciled in March 2017, and we made the decision to both renew our vows (with one of our re|engage group members leading the ceremony) and to make a public profession of our faith in Christ through baptism. Having our children there to watch us fully commit ourselves to the Lord and again to each other was the sweetest gift we could have ever given them.

So, you might be thinking that our marriage was trending up and to the right after re|engage. Not quite. Though we had reconciled, we still conflicted very poorly and were in desperate need of help in creating a healthy foundation for this new marriage. So, Alex and I made the decision to go through re:generation, Watermark’s year-long biblical recovery program for those with hurts, hang ups and habits.

Alex: With all this hard work through re:generation, I came to grips with the wounds from my mother’s abandonment and how this shaped my dysfunctional relationships with women as an adult. I learned that my entire life I’d been asking, “where am I going to find the right woman for me?” when in reality, I should have been asking, “how can I be the right man for the woman God gifted to me?”

Jen: And I learned that idols had long had a stronghold on my heart. I worshipped my husband, my marriage and my sexuality – and through God’s infinite wisdom, He put Alex, someone who struggled mightily with sex addiction, in my life knowing that one day our sins would collide and God would lay waste to these idols and fill my heart instead with His love and His truth.

We have since taken our girls through Passport2Purity, which is a biblical walk for teenagers guiding them on how to protect their purity through finding their worth in God alone. Only God could take two recovering sex addicts, and allow us to use His word to speak truth into the lives of our three girls.

God has given us an incredible gift in this story of His resurrection of our marriage – the Spirit convicted us to use this story and our brokenness to help shepherd a group of six couples through re|engage. We just commenced with this group a couple of months ago!

Alex: It’s our hope that you come to see that re|engage is a safe place where you will be loved by an amazing group of people, regardless of who you are, what you’re going through, or what you’ve done. Perhaps you feel like you’ve done something so terrible that you can’t be forgiven, or that your marriage is well beyond repair. Perhaps you don’t know who this Jesus is and what he can do for you or, even, how he could allow whatever it is you’re struggling with to happen to you. There are a lot of wonderful people here who are more than willing to walk with you through this.

Jen: Almost three years ago, I sat where you are, not believing in God and feeling like a complete failure in life. Today, I sit up here and implore you to consider that God can change anything! He is a builder, a healer, and can raise anything from the dead. Through Him all things are truly possible. There is hope. The following passage is the embodiment of God’s story in our lives:

Titus 3:3-5, “For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit…”

Alex: We want to encourage you to: 1) look with your eyes and listen with your ears to see and hear the stories of change occurring in the lives of those around you and 2) please just keep coming back (even when it’s hard) to assess for yourself if all that you see happening here is “normal” based on the current cultural standard in this country. Then ask yourself, what is the common thread behind all of these hard-to-believe, and sometimes ridiculous stories of resurrected marriages and relationships. There’s only one word, one name – and that’s Jesus. Thank you for letting us share.


About 're|engage Testimonies'

This series contains teachings and testimonies of God's transforming power in marriages at re|engage. re|engage is designed specifically to address needs in marriage by helping couples move towards oneness in their marriage through stories of grace, teaching and small groups. Whether your marriage needs to be reignited, or is in need of a complete resurrection, re|engage is a safe place for couples to reconnect. It is a 16-week experience which includes a time of praise and worship, a teaching or a testimony by a couple who has experienced victory in the midst of hard times, and small group time which follows a specified curriculum. We meet every Wednesday night, 6:30-8:15 p.m. in The Loft (7540 LBJ Freeway @ Park Central, Dallas). Childcare is provided and registration is not required.