David's insecurity, drinking, pornography, and infidelity created a toxic marriage that finally hit rock-bottom. Through confession, communication, and endurance, Cait and David's marriage experienced transformation by putting into practice God's design for marriage.
Nov 16, 2022 • Dallas
Bobby and Shari JohnsNov 8, 2023 • Dallas |
Monte and Marsha DunnNov 1, 2023 • Dallas |
Julie and Mark NicholsonOct 25, 2023 • Dallas |
Jerry and LoriOct 18, 2023 • Dallas |
Steve and Amie BradleyOct 11, 2023 • Dallas |
Marcus and Carol BrownSep 20, 2023 • Dallas |
Nancy and Mark RovenstineSep 6, 2023 • Dallas |
Kyle and Lucina ThompsonAug 23, 2023 • Dallas |
David and CaitAug 9, 2023 • Dallas |
Mandy and Leonard BagdanovAug 2, 2023 • Dallas |
Michelle and Nate BallJul 26, 2023 • Dallas |
Nate and Megan MickishJul 19, 2023 • Dallas |
Wes and Angie TalleyJul 5, 2023 • Dallas |
Jen and Alex LeskoJun 21, 2023 • Dallas |
Alissa and Shane MauldinJun 14, 2023 • Dallas |
Daniel and Cynthia CostaJun 7, 2023 • Dallas |
Sheri and Brett JohnstonMay 31, 2023 • Dallas |
Robert and Linda GreenMay 24, 2023 • Dallas |
John and Jeanie CoxMay 17, 2023 • Dallas |
Wade and Betsy NowlinMay 10, 2023 • Dallas |
David and Tara JensenMay 3, 2023 • Dallas |
Jim and Judy WimberleyJim & Judy Wimberley • Apr 12, 2023 • Dallas |
Jimmy and Michelle ComeauxApr 5, 2023 • Dallas |
Kevin and Kelli MainzMar 29, 2023 |
David and Manuela AcostaRe|Engage • Mar 26, 2023 |
Rob and Haley ThomasMar 22, 2023 • Dallas |
Robbie and Teri VedrenneMar 15, 2023 • Dallas |
Rick and Michelle HowardMar 1, 2023 • Dallas |
Matt and Jenn FarlowFeb 22, 2023 • Dallas |
David and Lauren KinneyJan 25, 2023 • Dallas |
Jared and Leigh Anne SullivanJared & Leigh Anne Sullivan • Jan 11, 2023 • Dallas |
Markus and Mary Kay JabekJan 4, 2023 • Dallas |
Neil and Jody CurranDec 7, 2022 • Dallas |
Scot and Michelle BuchananNov 30, 2022 • Dallas |
David and CaitNov 16, 2022 • Dallas |
Wes and Angie TalleyNov 9, 2022 • Dallas |
Tobin and Christina MillerOct 26, 2022 • Dallas |
Michael and Melinda ParisiMichael Parisi, Melinda Parisi • Oct 12, 2022 • Dallas |
David and Denise RenkenSep 28, 2022 • Dallas |
Bobby and Shari JohnsSep 14, 2022 • Dallas |
John and Debbie WingfieldSep 7, 2022 • Dallas |
Mark and Nancy RovenstineAug 31, 2022 • Dallas |
Todd and Julie AndersTodd Anders • Aug 24, 2022 • Dallas |
LaDale and Cynthia BuggsAug 3, 2022 • Dallas |
Chris and Katie SherrodJul 27, 2022 • Dallas |
Kyle and Lucina ThompsonKyle & Lucinda Thompson • Jul 20, 2022 • Dallas |
Simon and Katrina SaugierJul 13, 2022 • Dallas |
Willie and Gigi HornbergerJul 6, 2022 • Dallas |
Mark and Julie NicholsonJun 22, 2022 • Dallas |
Nate and Michelle BallJun 15, 2022 • Dallas |
Robbie and Teri VedrenneMay 25, 2022 • Dallas |
Paul and Kelly RutherfordMay 18, 2022 • Dallas |
David and Tara JensenMay 11, 2022 • Dallas |
John and Jeanie CoxMay 4, 2022 • Dallas |
Steve and Amie BradleyApr 27, 2022 • Dallas |
Chris and Michelle DishmanApr 20, 2022 • Dallas |
Kevin and Kelly MainzApr 13, 2022 • Dallas |
Jim and Judy WimberleyJim & Judy Wimberley • Apr 6, 2022 • Dallas |
Dean and Tawney MacfarlanMar 30, 2022 • Dallas |
Rob and Haley ThomasRob and Haley Thomas • Mar 23, 2022 • Dallas |
Shane and Alissa MauldinMar 16, 2022 • Dallas |
David and Lauren KinneyMar 9, 2022 • Dallas |
Markus and Mary Kay JabekMar 2, 2022 • Dallas |
Martha and Ivan IllarramendiFeb 16, 2022 • Dallas |
Ryan and Callie NixonRyan & Callie Nixon • Feb 9, 2022 • Dallas |
Alex and Jen LeskoJan 19, 2022 • Dallas |
Jared and Leigh Anne SullivanJan 12, 2022 • Dallas |
Selena and Michael ThompsonJan 5, 2022 • Dallas |
Russ and Karen FleigDec 15, 2021 • Dallas |
Phil and Beth BrinkmeyerDec 8, 2021 • Dallas |
Leonard and Mandy BagdanovDec 1, 2021 • Dallas |
Glenn and Desiree NewblomNov 17, 2021 • Dallas |
Michael and Melinda ParisiNov 10, 2021 • Dallas |
Bobby and Shari JohnsNov 3, 2021 • Dallas |
Brett and Jan BrusterOct 20, 2021 • Dallas |
Wes and Angie TalleyOct 13, 2021 • Dallas |
Mac and Sophie MacfarlanOct 6, 2021 • Dallas |
John and Debbie WingfieldSep 29, 2021 |
Brett and Chrisey BillmanSep 15, 2021 • Dallas |
Nate and Michelle BallSep 8, 2021 |
Mark and Nancy RovenstineAug 25, 2021 • Dallas |
Divorce PanelJun 23, 2021 |
Trey and Shera O'NealJun 16, 2021 • Dallas |
LaDale and Cynthia BuggsJun 9, 2021 • Dallas |
Shane and Alissa MauldinJun 2, 2021 • Dallas |
David and Tara JensenMay 26, 2021 • Dallas |
Jared and Leigh Anne SullivanMay 19, 2021 • Dallas |
Jim and Judy WimberleyJim & Judy Wimberley • Apr 28, 2021 |
Ivan and Martha IllarramendiApr 28, 2021 • Dallas |
Billy and Amanda PorcheApr 21, 2021 • Dallas |
Steve and Amie BradleyApr 14, 2021 • Dallas |
Griffin and Kami StroopeApr 7, 2021 • Dallas |
David and Lauren KinneyMar 31, 2021 • Dallas |
Rick and Michelle HowardMar 24, 2021 • Dallas |
Glenn and Desiree NewblomMar 17, 2021 • Dallas |
Markus and Mary Kay JabekMar 3, 2021 • Dallas |
David and Tara JensenFeb 24, 2021 • Dallas |
Brett and Jan BrusterJan 20, 2021 • Dallas |
Bobby and Shari JohnsJan 13, 2021 • Dallas |
Ryan and Callie NixonAug 28, 2020 |
Steve and Amie BradleyJun 2, 2020 |
Testimony- Brian and Morgan BuchekMar 4, 2020 • Dallas |
Testimony - David & Tara JensenMar 2, 2020 • Plano |
Blended Family PanelFeb 26, 2020 • Dallas |
Testimony - Greg & Jennifer SutherlandFeb 24, 2020 • Plano |
Testimony - Jacob & April NeelyFeb 17, 2020 • Plano |
Troy and Julia BussmeirFeb 7, 2020 |
Nick and Rachel KleinFeb 7, 2020 |
Mike and Shelly AhlemeierFeb 7, 2020 |
Matt and Andrea WalkerFeb 7, 2020 |
Luis and Kaylee CaceresFeb 7, 2020 |
Graham and Stacey RobbinsFeb 7, 2020 |
Andy and Jenny MarshFeb 7, 2020 |
Jared and Leigh Anne SullivanFeb 5, 2020 • Dallas |
Griffin and Kami Stroope TestimonyJan 22, 2020 |
TestimonyJan 8, 2020 |
Divorce PanelBrett Bruster, Bobby Johns, Alissa Mauldin • Nov 20, 2019 |
TestimonyLaDale & Cynthia Buggs • Nov 13, 2019 |
TestimonyNov 6, 2019 |
Testimony- Glenn and Desiree NewblomOct 23, 2019 |
Michael and Selena ThompsonOct 21, 2019 |
Testimony- Greg and Emily GoodinOct 16, 2019 |
Re|Engage Large Group TestimonySep 18, 2019 |
Re|Engage Large Group TestimonySep 11, 2019 |
Brandon and Brittani TravelsteadSep 7, 2019 |
Re|Engage Large Group TestimonyShane & Alissa Mauldin • Aug 28, 2019 |
Re|Engage Large Group TestimonyRyan & Callie Nixon, John & Pam McGee • Aug 21, 2019 |
Re|Engage Large Group TestimonyDru & Amanda Guillot • Aug 14, 2019 • Plano |
Martin and Lenore GaoJul 24, 2019 • Dallas |
Testimony - Shera and Trey O’NealJul 10, 2019 • Dallas |
John and Debbie WingfieldJun 12, 2019 |
Alex and Jen LeskoJun 12, 2019 |
Tim and Kalyn GeregJun 5, 2019 |
Jimmy and Michelle ComeauxMay 29, 2019 |
Raeul and Susan CoxMay 15, 2019 |
Jason and Mandy CastroMay 15, 2019 |
David and Robin HowardMay 15, 2019 |
Ivan and Martha IllarramendiMay 1, 2019 |
Robert and Linda GreenRobert and Linda Green • Apr 10, 2019 |
LaDale and Cynthia BuggsApr 10, 2019 |
Markus and Mary Kay JabekApr 3, 2019 |
Billy and Amanda PorcheMar 27, 2019 |
Brett and Jan BrusterBrett & Jan Bruster • Mar 13, 2019 |
Greg and Emily GoodinMar 6, 2019 |
Charles and Karen BundrenCharles & Karen Bundren • Feb 6, 2019 |
TestimonyNate & Michelle Ball • Jan 30, 2019 |
Testimony - Jared and Leigh Anne SullivanJared & Leigh Anne Sullivan • Jan 23, 2019 |
Bobby and Shari JohnsBobby & Shari Johns • Jan 9, 2019 |
Testimony - LaDale and Cynthia BuggsLaDale & Cynthia Buggs • Dec 5, 2018 |
Re|Engage Spanish Night Testimony - Manuel & Elvia LemusNov 14, 2018 |
Re|Engage Spanish Night Testimony - Ivan & Martha IllarramendiIvan & Martha Illarramendi • Nov 14, 2018 |
Ivan and Martha IllarramendiIvan & Martha Illarramendi • Nov 14, 2018 |
Testimony - Alex and Jen LeskoNov 7, 2018 |
Testimony - Raeul and Susan CoxRaeul & Susan Cox • Oct 31, 2018 |
Simon and Katrina SaugierKatrina Saugier, Simon Saugier • Oct 10, 2018 |
David and Denise RenkenDavid & Denise Renken • Sep 10, 2018 • Plano |
Testimony - Robert & Linda GreenRobert and Linda Green • Sep 5, 2018 |
Testimony - Martin and Lenore GaoAug 29, 2018 |
Shane and Alissa MauldinAug 22, 2018 |
Testimony - Markus and Mary Kay JabekAug 15, 2018 |
Testimony - Charles and Karen BundrenCharles Bundren, Karen Bundren, Charles & Karen Bundren • Aug 1, 2018 |
Testimony - Bobby & Shari JohnsBobby & Shari Johns • Jul 18, 2018 |
Testimony - Ivan & MarthaIvan & Martha Illarramendi • Jun 27, 2018 |
Testimony - Tim & Kalyn GeregJun 20, 2018 |
Greg & Tonya GilmerGreg & Tonya Gilmer • May 30, 2018 |
Testimony - Ryan & Callie NixonRyan & Callie Nixon • May 23, 2018 |
Paul and Kelly RutherfordPaul & Kelly Rutherford • May 9, 2018 |
Nate and Michelle BallNate & Michelle Ball • May 2, 2018 |
Kevin and Kelli MainzKevin & Kelly Mainz • Apr 18, 2018 |
Testimony - Greg and Emily GoodinGreg Goodin, Emily Goodin • Mar 28, 2018 |
Testimony - John and Debbie WingfieldJohn Wingfield, Debbie Wingfield • Mar 14, 2018 |
Testimony - Shane & Alissa MauldinShane & Alissa Mauldin • Feb 28, 2018 |
Brett and Chrisey BillmanBrett & Chrisey Billman • Feb 21, 2018 |
Todd and Alex WagnerTodd & Alex Wagner • Feb 7, 2018 |
Teaching - CommunityScott Coy • Jan 24, 2018 |
Teaching- CompletionJohn & Pam McGee • Dec 6, 2017 |
Testimony - Markus & Mary Kay JabekMarkus & Mary Kay Jabek • Nov 29, 2017 |
Testimony - Dave & Denise RenkenDave & Denise Renken • Nov 15, 2017 |
Robert and Liz WhiteRobert & Liz White • Nov 8, 2017 |
Testimony- John and Pam McGeeJohn & Pam McGee • Nov 1, 2017 |
Testimony- Charles and Karen BundrenCharles & Karen Bundren • Oct 25, 2017 |
Testimony - John & Debbie WingfieldJohn & Debbie Wingfield • Oct 18, 2017 |
Testimony - Greg & Tonya GilmerGreg & Tonya Gilmer • Oct 11, 2017 |
Testimony - Ryan & Callie NixonRyan & Callie Nixon • Sep 20, 2017 |
Kyle and Lucina ThompsonKyle & Lucinda Thompson • Sep 13, 2017 |
Testimony - Jared & Leigh Anne SullivanJared & Leigh Anne Sullivan • Aug 30, 2017 |
Testimony - Bobby & Shari JohnsBobby & Shari Johns • Aug 23, 2017 |
John Paul and RenaAug 16, 2017 |
Testimony - Paul & Kelly RutherfordPaul and Kelly Rutherford • Jul 26, 2017 |
Trey and Shera O'NealTrey O'Neal , Shera O'Neal • Jul 19, 2017 |
Testimony - Kevin & Kelli MainzKelli Mainz, Kevin Mainz • Jul 12, 2017 |
Erick and Gina FrankJun 28, 2017 |
Martin & Lenore Gao TestimonyMay 31, 2017 |
Tyler and Jenny O'NealMay 24, 2017 |
Mark and Kathy ThomasMay 17, 2017 |
Peter and EleanorMay 10, 2017 |
Testimony - Shane & Alissa MauldinMay 3, 2017 |
Eric and Catherine CouchEric Couch, Catherine Couch • Apr 19, 2017 |
Bill and Ann DalyMar 29, 2017 |
Testimony - LaDale & Cynthia BuggsMar 22, 2017 |
Testimony - Nate & Michelle BallNate Ball, Michelle Ball • Mar 15, 2017 |
Michael and Stefanie SantiagoMar 6, 2017 |
Steve and Natalie HammRe|Engage • Feb 20, 2017 |
Testimony - Brett & Chrisey BillmanBrett Billman, Chrisey Billman • Feb 15, 2017 |
Chris and Charece RobbinsFeb 8, 2017 |
Testimony - Charles & Karen BundrenFeb 1, 2017 |
Klein and Holly SwannieJan 18, 2017 |
Dean and Tawney MacfarlanJan 11, 2017 |
Mark and Nancy RovenstineDec 21, 2016 |
Testimony - Kevin and Kelli MainzNov 30, 2016 |
Testimony - Robert & Liz WhiteLiz White, Robert White • Nov 9, 2016 |
Testimony - John & Debbie WingfieldOct 26, 2016 |
Testimony - Mark & Kathy ThomasOct 12, 2016 |
Testimony - Bobby and Shari JohnsOct 5, 2016 |
Testimony - Simon & Katrina SaugierSimon Saugier, Katrina Saugier • Sep 28, 2016 |
Testimony - Shane & Alissa MauldinShane Mauldin, Alissa Mauldin • Sep 21, 2016 |
Teaching - The Importance of Fun in MarriageJohn & Pam McGee • Sep 14, 2016 |
TestimonyPaul and Kelly Rutherford • Aug 24, 2016 |
Teaching - Sexual IntimacyRobert and Linda Green • Aug 17, 2016 |
Rick and Michele HowardRe|Engage • Aug 10, 2016 |
Scott and Laura DeBowRe|Engage • Jul 27, 2016 |
Zech and Kim LumpkinRe|Engage • Jul 20, 2016 |
Tyler and Jenny O'Neal TestimonyRe|Engage • Jul 13, 2016 |
Scott and Kristen KedershaRe|Engage • Jun 22, 2016 |
Bill and Ann DalyRe|Engage • Jun 15, 2016 |
Bobby and Shari JohnsRe|Engage • Jun 8, 2016 |
Newly and Karen SpikesJun 2, 2016 |
Jon and Kathy FlamingRe|Engage • May 11, 2016 |
Brett and Jan BrusterRe|Engage • Apr 27, 2016 |
Reid and Jenny GriffinRe|Engage • Apr 20, 2016 |
Kyle and Lucina ThompsonRe|Engage • Apr 13, 2016 |
Chris and Charece RobbinsRe|Engage • Mar 23, 2016 |
Brett and Chrisey BillmanRe|Engage • Mar 9, 2016 |
Dee and Roddy ElliottRe|Engage • Mar 2, 2016 |
Derek and Stacy BrazielRe|Engage • Feb 17, 2016 |
Greg and Tonya GilmerRe|Engage • Feb 3, 2016 |
Adam and Brooke FishRe|Engage • Jan 27, 2016 |
Shane and Alissa MauldinRe|Engage • Jan 13, 2016 |
Everett and Emily AlexanderRe|Engage • Jan 6, 2016 |
Mark and Kathy ThomasRe|Engage • Dec 16, 2015 |
Divorce PanelRe|Engage • Dec 9, 2015 |
Matt and Amy LevyRe|Engage • Nov 18, 2015 |
Robert and Liz WhiteRe|Engage • Nov 4, 2015 |
Bryce and Elizabeth EricksonRe|Engage • Oct 21, 2015 |
Greg and Tonya GilmerRe|Engage • Oct 7, 2015 |
Chris and Charece RobbinsRe|Engage • Sep 30, 2015 |
Dru and Amanda GuillotRe|Engage • Sep 23, 2015 |
Dee and Roddy ElliottRe|Engage • Sep 16, 2015 |
Warren and Angie WrightRe|Engage • Sep 9, 2015 |
Derek and Stacy BrazielRe|Engage • Sep 2, 2015 |
Chris and Dana AdamsonRe|Engage • Jul 10, 2015 |
Jeremy and Mindi PattyRe|Engage • Jul 8, 2015 |
Bobby and Shari JohnsRe|Engage • Jun 17, 2015 |
Jim and Judy WimberleyRe|Engage • Jun 3, 2015 |
Kevin and Kelli MainzRe|Engage • May 20, 2015 |
Brett and Chrisey BillmanRe|Engage • May 11, 2015 |
Jason and Mandy CastroRe|Engage • May 6, 2015 |
Kyle and Lucina ThompsonRe|Engage • Apr 29, 2015 |
Reid and Jenny GriffinRe|Engage • Apr 22, 2015 |
Greg and Tonya GilmerRe|Engage • Apr 1, 2015 |
Raeul and Susan CoxRe|Engage • Mar 18, 2015 |
Dee and Roddy ElliottRe|Engage • Feb 25, 2015 |
John and Meredith HallRe|Engage • Feb 18, 2015 |
Ryan and Callie NixonRe|Engage • Feb 11, 2015 |
Adam and Brooke FishRe|Engage • Jan 28, 2015 |
Shane and Alissa MauldinRe|Engage • Jan 14, 2015 |
Bobby and Shari JohnsRe|Engage • Dec 3, 2014 |
Bobby and Shari JohnsRe|Engage • Dec 3, 2014 |
Greg and Tonya GilmerGreg Gilmer, Re|Engage, Tanya Gilmer • Nov 19, 2014 |
Robert and Liz WhiteRe|Engage • Nov 12, 2014 |
A.C. and Debi NdindjockRe|Engage • Nov 5, 2014 |
Mark and Nancy RovenstineRe|Engage • Oct 22, 2014 |
Reid and Jenny GriffinRe|Engage • Oct 15, 2014 |
Bryce and Elizabeth EricksonRe|Engage • Oct 13, 2014 |
Bill and Kathryn BuntynRe|Engage • Oct 1, 2014 |
Nate and Teresa GraybillRe|Engage • Sep 24, 2014 |
Robert and Lou Ann McMillenRe|Engage • Sep 17, 2014 |
Dee and Roddy ElliottRe|Engage • Sep 17, 2014 |
Kirk and Cathy McJunkinRe|Engage • Aug 27, 2014 |
Adam and Jackie Tarnow - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Aug 13, 2014 |
Kyle and Lucina Thompson - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jul 30, 2014 |
Joey and Christian Rider - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jul 2, 2014 |
Jason and Mandy Castro - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 25, 2014 |
Jeff and Martha Sharrock - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 18, 2014 |
Scott and Kristen Kedersha - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 11, 2014 |
Zech and Kim Lumpkin - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 4, 2014 |
Chris and Charece Robbins - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 7, 2014 |
Robert and Linda GreenRe|Engage • Apr 30, 2014 |
Everett and Emily Alexander - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 23, 2014 |
Bobby and Shari Johns - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 16, 2014 |
Neal and Ann Holford - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 9, 2014 |
Les and Desi Brown - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 26, 2014 |
Simon and Katrina Saugier - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jan 22, 2014 |
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jan 15, 2014 |
Chris and Dana Adamson - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jan 8, 2014 |
Rick and Michele Howard - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Dec 18, 2013 |
Divorce Panel - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Dec 11, 2013 |
Bryce and Elizabeth Erickson - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Nov 20, 2013 |
Dee and Roddy Elliott - re|engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Nov 13, 2013 |
Mike and Laura LabunskiRe|Engage • Nov 6, 2013 |
Robert and Liz White - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 30, 2013 |
Eddy and Rachel Badrina - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 23, 2013 |
Shane and Alissa Mauldin - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 16, 2013 |
David and Denise Renken - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 9, 2013 |
Reid and Jenny Griffin - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Sep 25, 2013 |
A.C. and Debi Ndindjock - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Sep 18, 2013 |
Joey and Christian Rider - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Sep 11, 2013 |
Scott and Kristen KedershaRe|Engage • Aug 7, 2013 |
Jeff and Martha SharrockRe|Engage • Jul 31, 2013 |
Neal and Ann Holford - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 29, 2013 |
Wes and Brandy Butler - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 3, 2013 |
Andy and Jennifer Bailey - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 27, 2013 |
Lance and Mandy Sisco - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jan 16, 2013 |
Leonard and Mandy Bagdanov - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Dec 19, 2012 |
Blake and Rebecca Holmes - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 10, 2012 |
Chris and Dana - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Aug 8, 2012 |
Catherine and Tom - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 25, 2012 |
Angie and Warren Wright - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 28, 2012 |
Teri and Robbie Vedrenne - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 21, 2012 |
Tawney and Dean Macfarlan - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 14, 2012 |
Brooke and Adam Fish - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Feb 29, 2012 |
Judy and Jim Wimberly - Re|Engage TestiomonyRe|Engage • Feb 22, 2012 |
Kim and Zech Lumpkin - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Feb 8, 2012 |
Mary and Ted Randall - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jan 11, 2012 |
Susan and Raeul - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Dec 21, 2011 |
Katie and Brandon Lokey - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Dec 14, 2011 |
Mindi and Jeremy - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Nov 30, 2011 |
Lisbeth and Hil Bowman - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 19, 2011 |
Meredith and John Hall - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Sep 28, 2011 |
Tanna and Rick - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Sep 14, 2011 |
Cathy and Kirk McJunkin - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Aug 24, 2011 |
Crystal and Anthony Obey - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jul 27, 2011 |
Rachel and EddyRe|Engage • Jun 29, 2011 |
Lucina and Kyle Thompson - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 22, 2011 |
Adam and Aleks Stewart - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 15, 2011 |
Linda and John Berry - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 25, 2011 |
Lora and Jeff Strese - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 11, 2011 |
Julie and Todd Anders - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 27, 2011 |
Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Apr 20, 2011 |
Jackie and Adam Tarnow - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 23, 2011 |
Ann and Matt Piper - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Feb 16, 2011 |
Cindy and Mike Homsher - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Nov 3, 2010 |
Julie and Scott Sedberry - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Oct 13, 2010 |
Rebecca and Chip Dickens - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Aug 25, 2010 |
Missy and David Leventhal - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Aug 18, 2010 |
Carrie and Troy Patterson - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Jun 30, 2010 |
Sheri and Brett Johnston - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 19, 2010 |
Tanna and Rick Wisner - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • May 12, 2010 |
Anna and Kavon Moradi - Re|Engage TestimonyRe|Engage • Mar 24, 2010 |
David Let’s pray: Lord, thank you for all those you have gathered in this room tonight and thank you for the story that you are writing in their lives. Thank you for how you have redeemed our marriage and restored our relationship with you. If there is anything helpful in our story, please let it stick with these couples – and if there is anything not from you, please let it not stick in anyone’s mind. Amen.
Hey everyone, I am David and this is my lovely wife Cait. We met each other at UT Dallas in 2010, dated for 4 years, and married in the spring of 2015, so we’ve been married 7 years. I wish we could say that everything has been smooth sailing for us in marriage, but it definitely has not been.
I grew up in McKinney just north of here. As a kid I was much more sensitive than the other boys - I preferred art and nature instead of soccer and baseball - I was different - and this led to the start of a deep insecurity. To make matters worse, I was exposed to pornography on the playground at age 10 which kicked-off a 20 year addiction with with lust, masturbation and pursuing sexual relationships. From a young age my identity quickly became tied up in girls and what they thought of me.
Cait I grew up in a single parent, atheist home with two brothers and a sister. My dad died when I was 6, so growing up I had no idea of what a marriage should be or what it meant to follow Christ. My mom was everything to me - she was loving and the example of the strong woman I strived to be. I was living for myself and had no boundaries. I was prideful, self-reliant, controlling, and arrogant and I brought all of those into my marriage. Security and consistency were big motivators for me in life. I came to know Christ in college, but not much changed in terms of my thoughts or how I lived my life. We had friends who got married before us and I remember them telling us “oh my first year of marriage was the absolute best!” and being annoyed and exasperated because that was not the case for us.
David When I was 15 I accepted Christ as my savior, but my life didn’t reflect any sort of consistent relationship where I was following and obeying Jesus. My need to be wanted and validated by girls continued to grow and I soon started cheating in any relationship that I was in. This pattern followed me throughout college, where a fraternity environment fueled by alcohol and drugs wreaked havoc.
I quit my fraternity my senior year with the hopes of improving my grades and getting a job after school. This is when Cait and I started dating.
Fast forward to two years into marriage: I was in a job I hated and ended up leaving with the goal of us starting our own business. Month after month, I grew increasingly frustrated as our plan started to falter. I didn’t realize it at the time, but my identity was grounded in my career and I was exceptionally insecure with the lack of success. Out of this three things happened - first, I started drinking on a daily basis, often when Cait was off at work. Quickly following that, pornography became a multi-hour, multiple-times a day obsession where I would escape from my insecurity. And third, I became so frustrated with progress on a business that I took $90,000 of our savings and put it into a high-risk asset - all without telling Cait. Aside from concealing this from Cait (which is lying), that investment quickly ballooned to over a $1,000,000 in 6 short months. I thought, wow, I’ve made it. I’m 26 and secured the million dollar dream. What a delusion. What I thought would have brought a ton of peace and comfort actually brought an exceptional amount of anxiety, greed, and arrogance. The asset was highly volatile, and I started to experience suicidal thoughts watching the dramatic up and down swings of our bank account.
I knew I was out of control and needed help. That’s when I started re:generation, which is re|engage’s sister ministry that focuses on care and recovery. Thank God - because that $1,000,000 disappeared just as fast as it was gained - Proverbs 13:11, Wealth gained hastily will dwindle. Without the community of my re:gen group, I don’t want to think about where I would have spiraled. During the year that I was in re:gen I was focused on fixing my porn problem – which, at face value sounds fine – but that’s the problem, God has to heal that. So it wasn’t too many months later that I found myself running back to pornography again as a coping mechanism.
Our problems came to a head during a trip to Austin where I ended up downloading a dating app late at night, matching with a girl, and then proceeding to engage in sexually explicity conversation and exchanging photos. I confessed to Cait two weeks later, but continued to struggle with this off and on for months.
Cait We fought constantly and I couldn’t understand why I married this person. We’d slam doors, I’d run out of the house screaming at him. He’d get in my face; trying to provoke me by begging me to hit him. We were a mess. But he had the porn problem and that was the source of our problems right? But here I am, the sole financial earner in our very new marriage, he’s reaching out to women outside of our marriage, and he’s lying to me about the money that I earned and putting all of our savings into something he didn’t even tell me about. If he didn’t do all that, then we’d have a great marriage. I deserve better.
That’s the lie I kept telling myself. That I was without sin and he is objectively the only one in the wrong. What I didn’t fully grasp was my own issues I would constantly bring into our arguments. I was riddled with pride and constantly thought that I was the better spouse.
I told David we needed to start re|engage and I’d be lying if I said my intention was to fix “us”. I really thought I was coming into this to fix David. We showed up and I remember rating our marriage a 1 at the end of the night. By the time we got into a closed group 2 things happened:
1) Our first closed group meeting was the day before everything shut down due to Covid.
2) And on the way into the closed-group I got a call from my mom letting me know she just got diagnosed with cancer.
I was devastated. I thought the world was completely falling apart around me and I had no sense of stability in my life. I was my mom’s main caretaker and that meant frequently driving her to Houston for her appointments and leaving my very fragile marriage behind for days at a time. Everything was out of my control. My codependency had me a complete nervous wreck because I couldn’t just leave David to his own devices while I was gone for extended periods of time. I actually prayed God would take David out of my life, so I wouldn’t have to feel the guilt of defeat and failure of a divorce. With the pandemic and my mom’s cancer, we were completely home-bound and quarantined. We couldn’t see anyone since she was in two compromised groups - age and cancer. We saw no one. Just each other and my mom.
During this time I held nothing back. He couldn’t run, I couldn’t run. We were forced to face our problems. It was painful. I really did not expect re|engage to do much, however I was at my wits end and willing to try anything.
We had to grow into it but we started identifying problems in our marriage: I recognized how much James 1:19 plays a role in my day to day life, “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God”. I didn’t fully grasp how angry I was, how quarrelsome I was towards David. I was blind to my own faults. Blind to how much I disrespected him with my words, my body language, and my thoughts about him. God tells us in Ephesians 5:33 Men love your wives, and wives respect your husbands – this isn’t what comes naturally to us in moments of frustration or when we least deserve it. When I stopped focusing on what David did wrong and started focusing on how I could better respect and serve him is when my heart started to soften towards him. He didn’t deserve it, just like we don’t deserve God’s grace, but I knew something had to change.
David I still remember our first night in re|engage. I was terrified. I knew we needed help but I didn’t want to be vulnerable with others. I am SO glad we stuck with it though.
It was about halfway through re|engage that we started to see transformation in our marriage and in our relationships with the Lord.
Isaiah 1:18 says, "Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.
Despite the trouble and heartache that Covid brought for many. We are thankful for how God used it as an incubator to slow us down and force us to focus on our relationship with Him and with each other. I was furloughed from my job, Cait started working from home, and that left us stuck having to face and process each other’s pain. Daily, we had to reconcile with each other and work together through our problems in real time. One of the key things we uncovered is how we are wired in completely different ways: I’m way more extroverted than Cait. I’m also way more of a feeler and external processor - Cait on the other hand is more guarded and an internal processor. This time forced us to see eye to eye and to gain a mutual understanding for each other.
During re|engage we also uncovered a few nuggets of wisdom that we now live by:
1) Over-commitment
We do not do well with back-to-back social engagements. I am a social butterfly and say yes to too many things, often booking up every moment of our weeks and weekends - leaving little room for rest or time to connect in our relationship.
Cait And I am not wired that way. Being an introvert, I have what we affectionately call “a tiny gas tank”. I get easily overwhelmed and frustrated without sufficient time to process by myself and recharge. This seems so straightforward, but was a critical friction point that we both had to take ground to understand and see each other eye-to-eye on.
2) Intentional connection
Tying into the first point, we learned we need to take the time to intentionally connect with one another in a meaningful way. I don’t tend to just open up and share my feelings.
David So once a week we sit down for what we call “green chair time” - where we sit in our favorite two green chairs and we have a series of questions that we ask each other to help open up and communicate. We talk about our wants, desires, fears, sins, shortcomings and pitfalls. We also dig in and ask what went well the week before, build each other up, and how we can serve each other throughout the upcoming week. It’s a safe space for us to air out anything that might have start to develop into resentments. It’s a lot like gardening - weeding the garden is not a once a year activity. On top of prioritizing and syncing our emotions during our chair time, we prioritize seeking the Lord, praying together daily, and finding moments throughout the day where we can connect. When we put all of this into practice, it makes it very difficult for selfishness to take root.
Cait 3) Recognizing our own faults.
I put the blame of so much of our marital struggles on David because it was a tangible sin. There were pinpoint moments of sin that were easily defined - cheating via apps, lying or concealing information. Those are moments we can specifically recall an action taking place and say A+B led to C. But sin isn’t so linear. It’s not always an off/off switch. My pride may not be a well defined box, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t there or it isn’t ugly or just as destructive. I had to learn to identify how my pride was appearing and then address that with God and David on a daily basis.
So where are we at today? Today, I don’t know that our marriage has ever been in a sweeter spot. And almost every month I say that: “It can’t get better than this” and it does. I still have my issues with pride and codependency but I now seek God to understand when I’m about to escalate and how to take a step back and seek mutual understanding rather than fighting to be right.
David I 100% agree - we are by no means perfect, afterall, we are two sinners married to each other and that results in conflict and trouble still. However with Christ in our relationship and as our savior, redeemer, and advocate, our relationship continues to grow in new and dynamic ways. Just the other day we both were talking about how despite us both gaining 30 pounds since college, we’re more attracted to each other now than ever before. We prioritize creating a safe space where we can be vulnerable with each other; this looks like us actively and considerately addressing issues, thoughts, and emotions before they ever develop into resentments or bigger problems in our marriage. I can honestly say that Cait is my best friend and I truly view her as a teammate in life and not a source of resentment anymore.
Cait We’re still learning more and more about each other despite being together for over a decade. We’re intimate in a way that I never thought possible physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Most of the time we can now laugh through our conflict - which is such a strange and beautiful departure from slamming doors and throwing verbal punches at one another. We now serve in Merge, Watermark’s premarital ministry for engaged or dating couples, and when we tell our tables about how our marriage was and they can see the same early struggles within their relationships they ask us “how did you do it?” “how do you have such a great marriage despite all the struggles and infidelity” - People want to hear the silver bullet, but the only silver bullet is God. It is by His grace and transforming love that we are now free to share that love with others - including our spouse.
David If we could leave you with any advice as you go through re|engage, we would encourage you to do the following:
Confess Early: Proverbs 28:13 says, Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy. I’ve learned a lot of things the hard way and confession is one of those. When you confess, you’re living in the light and putting your trust, control, and circumstances in God’s hands and not your own. He is much more capable than you are. Matthew 10:29-31, Jesus says: Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows. We see that God cares even about the mundane details of your life like the hairs on your head that He created - how much more will He show his mercy and grace in the midst of confession?
Don’t Miss this Moment: This ties to point #1. You’re in an incredibly unique season of life going through re|engage. This is the time to take ground. A book I was recently reading painted the Christian life as one that increases in two things: yieldedness to God and collaboration with God. Both point towards giving way to God and collaborating with His design for life on a daily basis.
Cait 3. Third - don’t give up. No matter how dire the circumstances or how much those around you tell you you need to get out, Christ can redeem your marriage and it’s a truly beautiful sight to see. Galatians 6:9, And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. God is in the midst of writing your story. Keep asking Him for help and drawing the circle around yourself - fix everything in that circle and watch what God will do.
David Thank y’all for your time and listening to our story.
This series contains teachings and testimonies of God's transforming power in marriages at re|engage. re|engage is designed specifically to address needs in marriage by helping couples move towards oneness in their marriage through stories of grace, teaching and small groups. Whether your marriage needs to be reignited, or is in need of a complete resurrection, re|engage is a safe place for couples to reconnect. It is a 16-week experience which includes a time of praise and worship, a teaching or a testimony by a couple who has experienced victory in the midst of hard times, and small group time which follows a specified curriculum. We meet every Wednesday night, 6:30-8:15 p.m. in The Loft (7540 LBJ Freeway @ Park Central, Dallas). Childcare is provided and registration is not required.
Re|engage is a weekly ministry for married couples to find help, learn, and grow in their marriage through a small-group setting.