David and Robin Howard

re|engage Testimonies

After David had suggested re|engage to countless hurting couples and heard great feedback, the Howards knew it was time to dive in themselves and take their marriage from mediocre to thriving.

May 15, 2019

In This Series (100)
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Ivan and Martha Illaremendi
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Mark and Kathy Thomas
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Jodi and Neil Curran
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Mary Kay and Markus Jabek
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Denise and David Renken
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Doug and Dyann Kierstead
Jan 24, 2024Dallas
Robbie and Teri Vedrenne
Jan 10, 2024Dallas
Michelle and Scot Buchanan
Dec 20, 2023Dallas
Susan and Dick
Dec 13, 2023Dallas
Ben and LK Ortiz
Nov 29, 2023Dallas
Bobby and Shari Johns
Nov 8, 2023Dallas
Monte and Marsha Dunn
Nov 1, 2023Dallas
Julie and Mark Nicholson
Oct 25, 2023Dallas
Jerry and Lori
Oct 18, 2023Dallas
Steve and Amie Bradley
Oct 11, 2023Dallas
Marcus and Carol Brown
Sep 20, 2023Dallas
Nancy and Mark Rovenstine
Sep 6, 2023Dallas
Kyle and Lucina Thompson
Aug 23, 2023Dallas
David and Cait
Aug 9, 2023Dallas
Mandy and Leonard Bagdanov
Aug 2, 2023Dallas
Michelle and Nate Ball
Jul 26, 2023Dallas
Nate and Megan Mickish
Jul 19, 2023Dallas
Wes and Angie Talley
Jul 5, 2023Dallas
Jen and Alex Lesko
Jun 21, 2023Dallas
Alissa and Shane Mauldin
Jun 14, 2023Dallas
Daniel and Cynthia Costa
Jun 7, 2023Dallas
Sheri and Brett Johnston
May 31, 2023Dallas
Robert and Linda Green
May 24, 2023Dallas
John and Jeanie Cox
May 17, 2023Dallas
David and Tara Jensen
May 3, 2023Dallas
David and Manuela Acosta
Re|EngageMar 26, 2023
Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
Jared & Leigh Anne SullivanJan 11, 2023Dallas
Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Jan 4, 2023Dallas
Neil and Jody Curran
Dec 7, 2022Dallas
Scot and Michelle Buchanan
Nov 30, 2022Dallas
David and Cait
Nov 16, 2022Dallas
Michael and Melinda Parisi
Michael Parisi, Melinda ParisiOct 12, 2022Dallas
Jim and Judy Wimberley
Jim & Judy WimberleyApr 28, 2021
Ryan and Callie Nixon
Aug 28, 2020
Steve and Amie Bradley
Jun 2, 2020
Troy and Julia Bussmeir
Feb 7, 2020
Nick and Rachel Klein
Feb 7, 2020
Mike and Shelly Ahlemeier
Feb 7, 2020
Matt and Andrea Walker
Feb 7, 2020
Luis and Kaylee Caceres
Feb 7, 2020
Graham and Stacey Robbins
Feb 7, 2020
Andy and Jenny Marsh
Feb 7, 2020
Jared and Leigh Anne Sullivan
Feb 5, 2020Dallas
Michael and Selena Thompson
Oct 21, 2019
Brandon and Brittani Travelstead
Sep 7, 2019
Martin and Lenore Gao
Jul 24, 2019Dallas
John and Debbie Wingfield
Jun 12, 2019
Alex and Jen Lesko
Jun 12, 2019
Tim and Kalyn Gereg
Jun 5, 2019
Jimmy and Michelle Comeaux
May 29, 2019
Jason and Mandy Castro
May 15, 2019
David and Robin Howard
May 15, 2019
Robert and Linda Green
Robert and Linda GreenApr 10, 2019
LaDale and Cynthia Buggs
Apr 10, 2019
Markus and Mary Kay Jabek
Apr 3, 2019
Brett and Jan Bruster
Brett & Jan BrusterMar 13, 2019
Greg and Emily Goodin
Mar 6, 2019
Charles and Karen Bundren
Charles & Karen BundrenFeb 6, 2019
Bobby and Shari Johns
Bobby & Shari JohnsJan 9, 2019
Simon and Katrina Saugier
Katrina Saugier, Simon SaugierOct 10, 2018
David and Denise Renken
David & Denise RenkenSep 10, 2018Plano
Shane and Alissa Mauldin
Aug 22, 2018
Greg & Tonya Gilmer
Greg & Tonya GilmerMay 30, 2018
Paul and Kelly Rutherford
Paul & Kelly RutherfordMay 9, 2018
Nate and Michelle Ball
Nate & Michelle BallMay 2, 2018
Kevin and Kelli Mainz
Kevin & Kelly MainzApr 18, 2018
Brett and Chrisey Billman
Brett & Chrisey BillmanFeb 21, 2018
Todd and Alex Wagner
Todd & Alex WagnerFeb 7, 2018
Robert and Liz White
Robert & Liz WhiteNov 8, 2017
Kyle and Lucina Thompson
Kyle & Lucinda ThompsonSep 13, 2017
John Paul and Rena
Aug 16, 2017
Trey and Shera O'Neal
Trey O'Neal , Shera O'NealJul 19, 2017
Erick and Gina Frank
Jun 28, 2017
Mark and Kathy Thomas
May 17, 2017
Peter and Eleanor
May 10, 2017
Eric and Catherine Couch
Eric Couch, Catherine CouchApr 19, 2017
Bill and Ann Daly
Mar 29, 2017
Michael and Stefanie Santiago
Mar 6, 2017
Steve and Natalie Hamm
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Chris and Charece Robbins
Feb 8, 2017
Klein and Holly Swannie
Jan 18, 2017
Dean and Tawney Macfarlan
Jan 11, 2017
Mark and Nancy Rovenstine
Dec 21, 2016
Rick and Michele Howard
Re|EngageAug 10, 2016
Scott and Laura DeBow
Re|EngageJul 27, 2016
Zech and Kim Lumpkin
Re|EngageJul 20, 2016
Scott and Kristen Kedersha
Re|EngageJun 22, 2016
Newly and Karen Spikes
Jun 2, 2016
Jon and Kathy Flaming
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Robert and Linda Green
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Mike and Laura Labunski
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In This Series (354)

David: We were married 26 years ago, coming up on 27. We both came from Christian homes, have always been faithful going to church and studying God’s word – very much in love with each other, but really had, at that point in time, not developed a strong sense of the purpose of marriage.

Robin: We were in a church that studied the Bible, but we didn’t have community. And we didn’t really have a good form of resolving conflict well. And that just caused a lot of unnecessary pain and struggle at different times in our marriage.

David: It wasn’t one big thing. There weren’t any structural cracks in our marriage, but it was the little things that kept adding up. But after 26 years, we were processing our kids leaving home, an empty nest stage.

And one of the things in my law practice is I kept getting phone calls from clients, although I’m not a divorce lawyer. They would, in talking about business transactions, say, hey, by the way, do you know of a divorce lawyer? I’m having some trouble. And I would always suggest re|engage.

And they would always come back with this, wow, I’m so glad you gave us that message and gave us that opportunity, it’s made a huge difference. So over the years after hearing that, that was a curiosity piqued me and said, well, if it can really be good for marriages that are in trouble and on the brink of divorce, it could also be good for a marriage that just wants to improve.

Robin: It’s a great place to process and learn. And you learn from God’s Word what His plan is for marriage. And you do it in context of community. And you’re encouraged by the other marriages who are going through the same process.

David: And one of the reasons we wanted to go through re|engage is one of our couples out of three had been through re|engage, but two of our couples in our community group had not been through re|engage. Now that all of us have been through re|engage, we have a common language that we can talk to each other about whenever we’re talking through our marriage issues.

Robin: The things we learned in re|engage was just how both of us had our own tendencies toward selfishness. And the principle of drawing the circle around yourself was really helpful in just focusing on what my triggers were and what my default patterns were in dealing with conflict – and to deal with those, it was going to translate to a much better marriage. Whether he changed or not, that wasn’t up to me.

David: Because I think there are these go-to defense mechanisms we all fall into – these common traits that we have or bad habits that we’ve gotten into. And there are some blind spots sometimes that we have. And by going through and identifying those, it’s much easier to be able to deal with them.

It’s really inspiring for a spouse to see them dealing with their own issues. It really makes you want to then start focusing on yourself.

Robin: I think we’ve been able to laugh at things easier, and be able to call each other out on things, and not be so sensitive or defensive, and just say, hey, yeah, you’re right. The other was just the model that God really designed for marriage to what He wanted it to be is a reflection of His love for us. And it’s a mutual sacrifice, a mutual submission. And this is something He’s designed to bring Him glory. And this isn’t something designed just to make me happy.

David: Mediocrity is just not the standard God calls us to. When you have Paul saying we should love our wives as God loves the church, and we really take that apart and figure out what that means, it’s an incredibly high standard. In fact, it’s probably one we can’t even do on our own. We need community, we need the Holy Spirit. So to me, it was the challenge of not wanting to accept mediocrity in our marriage but take ground.

We’re not only accountable to ourselves, but we’re accountable to Christ in how we help our spouse live out their destiny in Christ. So we’ve got to answer for that someday. So to love them well with the standards that Christ has given us is really what God calls us to in marriage.

About 're|engage Testimonies'

This series contains teachings and testimonies of God's transforming power in marriages at re|engage. re|engage is designed specifically to address needs in marriage by helping couples move towards oneness in their marriage through stories of grace, teaching and small groups. Whether your marriage needs to be reignited, or is in need of a complete resurrection, re|engage is a safe place for couples to reconnect. It is a 16-week experience which includes a time of praise and worship, a teaching or a testimony by a couple who has experienced victory in the midst of hard times, and small group time which follows a specified curriculum. We meet every Wednesday night, 6:30-8:15 p.m. in The Loft (7540 LBJ Freeway @ Park Central, Dallas). Kids Ministry is available with advance registration.