God’s Response to Abuse

Summary

This week’s message addressed the painful and complex topic of abuse (especially within marriage). God sees, protects, and provides for the oppressed, and his Word speaks directly to both the abused and the abuser. Jesus not only condemns abuse—he entered into our brokenness, endured abuse himself, and offers healing and hope to both the wounded and the repentant. In his kingdom, oppression will not have the final word.

Key Takeaways

• Abuse is oppression for selfish gain. It is the misuse of God-given power to control, manipulate, or harm another person for one’s own benefit.
• God’s heart is for the oppressed. He is near to the brokenhearted and a stronghold for those in trouble (Psalm 9:9; 34:18).
• Jesus is the healer and the hope for both the abused and the abuser. Through the cross, he entered into our suffering to bring justice, healing, and restoration.
• The church must care well. We are called to protect the vulnerable, confront sin, and support victims toward safety and healing while calling abusers to repentance.
• Abuse doesn’t have to be the end of the story. Jesus offers redemption and a new identity—to the victim as one who is seen and restored, and to the abuser as one who must repent and be transformed.

Discussion Questions

• Why is it important to define abuse as oppression for selfish gain?
• Read Psalm 9:9 and Psalm 46:1. What do these verses reveal about God’s character toward those who suffer? How does knowing this shape how we respond to abuse in our church and community?
• Genesis 3 shows how sin distorted relationships between men and women. How do we still see the effects of that brokenness today?
• For those who have experienced abuse, how does Jesus’ suffering and resurrection bring comfort, dignity, and hope? For those struggling with anger, control, or harshness, what does genuine repentance look like?
• How can our community embody the heart of Christ—a refuge for the hurting and a place of accountability for the unrepentant? What next step might God be prompting you or our group to take?

Additional Resources

• If you’re experiencing abuse or have experienced abuse in the past and would like help, please connect with us. Fill out your information and in the comments field, type “help.”
• If you live outside of the Dallas area and need help, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788.
• If you know someone who is being abuse or has abuse in their story, members of our staff team put together a resource to help minister to families in crisis.