In Part 2 of a two-part series, TA talks about being the right friend or family member when you know someone who is struggling with mental health.
Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”
In order for us to experience God as shelter and refuge, we often need good friends and family members who can call us in to take shelter in Christ in the midst of the storm. As members of Watermark, Jesus has saved us into a family and put His Spirit inside each one of us so that we can help one another experience and enjoy life in Christ. The last thing we want to do is hurt instead of help one another as we seek to pursue life in Christ in the midst of battling mental health. Here are three ways we can become good comforters to those in our lives who might be struggling with mental health.
Good comforters hear and see when someone is not okay (Job 2:11-13). It is helpful to know what to look for. Pay attention when someone is:
Good comforters prioritize presence (Job 2:13). Job's friends initially don’t just try to fix Job. They enter into Job’s pain with him. And then they just sit with him for seven days and seven nights without saying a word. The best comforters value presence with patience.
Good comforters seek to comfort instead of call out with the truth. If you know someone who is struggling with mental health, there is a difference between seeking to comfort them with truth and seeking to call them out with truth. Instead of calling someone out with Philippians 4:6-7, what if you read it and said: “Don’t despair. Let’s keep pressing in together. God is glorified when we seek him. Let’s keep doing what Scripture calls us to do. Let’s ask of God. Let’s thank God. Let’s continue to believe that God can bring peace in his timing and in his way.”
If someone is struggling with mental health, there is a good chance they already feel like a failure. They already feel deficient and that they are failing God. The last thing they need is for you to put an exclamation point on those thoughts.
For those struggling with mental health, remember Jesus, who on the night he was arrested, was grieved to the point of death. And yet He endured the cross and conquered Satan, sin, and death so that in the midst of your struggle you can by faith have hope in Him that He has ensured a day when mental illness will be no more. And yet in the meantime, He is with you actively to comfort and provide what you need to endure.
And for those not struggling with mental health, may you ask God to give you, by His Spirit in you, the selflessness of Christ to be able to look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others. This is the way of Jesus, the eternal Son of God who became man, who was selfless enough to become obedient to the point of death on a cross for the salvation and comfort of all those who would put their trust in Him. In Him, may we selflessly give of ourselves to be good comforters with the love and comfort of our Lord and Savior.