What do you see when you think of a godly mother? Perhaps it’s your own mom or an idealized version of motherhood you’ve seen on TV – a mom who has all the answers, makes the best cookies, works full-time, has plenty of time for her kids, and serves as PTA president. (Are you tired after reading that?)
We asked a group of experienced moms what characteristics they have needed to raise healthy, faithful, believing children – and the Scripture that has encouraged them over the years. We hope you’re encouraged by the lessons they have learned through time in God’s Word and on the job as Christ-following mothers.
Here are five characteristics of a godly mom:
Every age and stage comes with its unique ups and downs. One minute your toddler is enjoying a day at the park; the next he’s melting down because you won’t let him eat the gum stuck to the bottom of the swing. At 10 AM, your daughter says you’re the best mom, and by dinner you’re the worst because you won’t let her go to a party that “everyone else’s parents” said yes to.
Because a godly mom is steadfast (Psalm 26:12) in her faith and firmly rooted in God’s Word, she stays off her child’s emotional roller coaster. Her foundation of faith keeps her stable and strong (Psalm 40:2), regardless of her child’s highs and lows. She disciplines her children out of love and not anger (Hebrews 12:11; Revelation 3:19). Her identity is rooted, not in her child’s opinion, but on who Christ says she is. So, she can set boundaries and make parenting decisions based on Scripture rather than on what’s popular or convenient.
Did you just do a double take on that last sentence? As much as we love our families, there’s one love that surpasses them all – one love that anchors a godly mom’s feet and gives her the strength and grace needed to selflessly serve others. A godly mom loves the Lord with all her heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mark 12:30). She depends on God’s love and power (Psalm 121:1-3, 27:11), rather than her own. She puts time in God’s Word and in prayer first, allowing the Bible to inform her words and actions throughout the day. She intentionally disciples her kids (Proverbs 22:6; Deuteronomy 4:9, 6:6–7) rather than farming out that privilege to the school or church. And on good days and bad, as she pursues the Lord, she leads her children by example (1 Corinthians 11:1).
Every mom gets frustrated or loses her cool when her son tells her at 9:59 PM that he needs posterboard for a school project the next day. But rather than allowing missteps and mistakes to lead her down the path of insecurity or comparison, a faithful mom has the God-given gift of humility (1 Peter 5:6-7). Humility helps her apologize to her children and spouse when she gets it wrong and extend herself a little grace as well. Guilt, perfectionism, and anxiety may be common struggles, but they rob her of joy (Romans 8:1, 3:23; Philippians 4:6-7) and distract her from what God has asked her to do that day. She’s been forgiven much, so she loves much (Luke 7:47) and generously extends grace to others when they need it – even the person staring back at her in the mirror.
Community with other believers is never easy, but it’s essential for Christ-followers. She makes authenticity and confession (Proverbs 28:13) with other believers a regular part of her life. Faithful moms know they need friends (Romans 12:10) who will speak truth (2 Timothy 3:16), correct, pray for, and of course, encourage one another.
A godly mom knows her words have the power to tear down or build up her family and those around her (1 Thessalonians 5:11). So, she does her best to honor the Lord in her conversations, avoid gossip (James 1:26), and assume the best about others (Proverbs 17:9; Psalm 101:5). There’s no such thing as a one size fits all approach to parenting and discipline, so she builds her kids up by understanding their individual needs and the u¬nique gifts God has given them. She views her role not only as a steward of her children’s lives, but also as an opportunity to live out the gospel in her community, in her church, and in the relationships she builds with others every day.
Being a mom is an important job, and God’s Word gives us instructions on how to do the job well. By faithfully following Christ, you’ll be a mom worth celebrating—on Mother’s Day, and every day.